Secret Survivors

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This quote helped my self-esteem today.  I usually feel so defective.  Perhaps, I can think of some things that are right with me each day too.  How about you?

Silver Girl

I feel this relates to all types of abuse and neglect..

SG x

“The aftereffects of Post-Incest Syndrome are not ‘problems’ to be ‘overcome’, but coping mechanisms that have negative side-effects. By attaching the concept of ‘disorder’ to these consequences, we damn the incest survivor to weakness instead of attributing to her the strength of spirit, creativity, and endurance that she deserves–that she has earned.”

~ Secret Survivors by E. Sue Blume

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Imaginary Friend

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In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Imaginary Friend.”

My imaginary friend refused to grow up. She is still five years old.  She is still trying to have the childhood she never had.  Severely abused, but safe now, she wants a life of bright colors and laughter. Tears of relief are okay too.  Her name is simply Little One.  She plays with her own dolls that are no longer taken from her.  They have tea parties with sugared tea and many smiles. Watercolors, her own watercolors, are taped upon every wall.   These pictures that she has painted of her dolls, stuffed animals and her new Mom adorn the room. I am her Mom and I love Little One with all my heart.  I do my best to try  to make up for her years of sadness and hurt.  She is sad less and less and even dances sometimes.  Can you see her spinning about with her dress twirling as she laughs?

Her imaginary room has a bay window with long, soft curtains that move in the breeze from the open window. Sitting there, Little One basks in the feeling of being safe. Safe to be. Safe to be little.

Image from Bing

A Conversation with my 14 Year Old Self

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A Conversation with my 14 Year-Old Self

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “From You to You.”

I’ve got good news and bad news for you kiddo.  Pimples aren’t forever is the good news.  Tough times will continue but the abuse will end.  You will cut the ties with your awful parents. The other good news is that you get to have a great kid.  Just the one, but he’s enough.  That’s right — a son.  He is funny and smart and loving and you have all kinds of joys raising him.  Your husband?  Oh… well…you’ve had two so far.  You’re not exactly lucky in love.  Sorry about that.  But you have good friends — some you even know right now!  No, I’m not telling who, I want it to be a surprise.  Your sister and you are still close and she has a daughter who grows up to be a published poet.  Yeah, really.  You? You become a reading tutor and also teach in preschools.  You adore children and love your work.  All that playing school years ago becomes your passion.  When do the pimples go away?  Ha!  – in a couple of years.  But you get to have some nice boyfriends with pimples so its okay.  No, you don’t marry any of your junior high or high-school sweethearts.  No, you never date Jimmy B. who you roped and kissed in kindergarten.  You are boy-crazy, aren’t you?

Children: To Hit or Not to Hit? (spoiler: NOT!)

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Hitting children is abusive.  It is taking advantage of adult power over children and should not be tolerated in our society. Please read this thought-provoking blog.

Barking Back

The text in this image can be found at the bottom of the post. Children Learn What They Live poem by Dorothy Law Nolte from http://www.docstoc.com/docs/158159649/Children-Learn-What-They-Live

Another facebook friend is advocating hitting children. In the wake of another local bullying incident, my news feed is once again spattered with variations on the meme of “If there was more of THIS {image of a child being spanked}, there’d be less of THIS {image of young criminals*}.”

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