Chronic Childhood Stress and a Dysfunctional Family – Kylie Matthews * Different Adversities Lead to Similar Health Problems – Donna Jackson Nakazawa.



Children from unhappy, dysfunctional families who experience chronic adversity undergo changes in brain architecture that create lasting physical scars, that look pretty similar no matter who you are, where you lived, or what happened to make you unhappy when you were growing up.

Happy families may succeed not because of what they do right, but because of everything they don’t do wrong.

The stress of Adverse Childhood Experiences causes toxicity to the neurons and neural pathways that integrate different areas of the brain. These brain changes have a profound effect on our decision making abilities, self regulatory processes, attention, emotional regulation, thoughts, and behavior.

Cutting her mother out of her life was the only conceivable way she could survive.
Janet Camilleri reveals why she cut ties with her mother.

Kylie Matthews

What do you do when a close family relationship, such as a parent or sibling, becomes so dysfunctional it’s…

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Saturday Surprise — Winter Birds!!!


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A fellow critter-loving friend of mine posted a few pictures of winter birds a few days ago on Facebook, and a link to an article featuring lots of such birds.  Some of them are so gorgeous that I knew right then I would share them for Saturday’s surprise!  It amazes me that these small, seemingly-delicate creatures can withstand the cold of winter, but somehow they do!

American-Goldfinch American Goldfinch

American Robins

Annas-Hummingbird Anna’s Hummingbird

Barred Owls

Black-Capped Chickadees

Blue Jays

Bohemian-Waxwing Bohemian Waxwing

California-Scrub-Jay California Scrub Jay

Cedar-Waxwing Cedar Waxwing

Common-Grackle Common Grackle

Common-Redpole Common Redpole

Coopers-Hawk Cooper’s Hawk

Downy-Woodpecker Downy Woodpecker

Eastern Bluebirds

Great-Grey-Owl Great Grey Owl

Mockingbird Mockingbird

Mourning Doves

Northern Cardinals

Northern Flicker (left); Northern Flicker and European Starling (right)

Snowy-Owl Snowy Owl

Tufted-Titmouse Tufted Titmouse

White-Breasted Nuthatch

Yellow-Shafted-Flicker Yellow-Shafted Flicker

Aren’t they beautiful?  I hope they made you smile this Saturday winter morn!  Be sure to check out the website for some tips about feeding winter birds and winter bird…

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The One Word You Shouldn’t Say To Someone With Anxiety Or Depression — Fighting for a Future


Take a moment to imagine yourself in the lowest mental state you could possibly be. Removing yourself from your bedsheets to move your body feels about as excruciating as climbing Mount Everest barefoot. Or maybe out of no where your heart starts thumping so fast that your breath hitches in your throat and your lungs…

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Saturday Surprise — Squirrels!


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I came across something a few days ago and thought it would be perfect for this week’s Saturday surprise, since with Christmas coming at mach speed, I am short on time this week and don’t have time to take you traveling in the Filomobile to exotic places.  What I came across was squirrels!  Let me explain …

Meet Geert Weggen

Geert Weggen

Geert is the one on the right.  I’ll let him tell you a bit about himself …

“I am a Dutch/Swedish international awarded photographer specializing in photographing Red squirrels. My work has been published wide abroad in newspapers, books, calendars, radio and television, and magazines.

6 years ago, there was a fox standing on my doorstep, and I immediately rushed back inside to fetch some meat. The fox would come back daily to get more food and I used that as an opportunity to take some photos.

By the end…

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J-j-jolly M-m-monday, F-f-friends!


A Smorgasbord of fun!

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That sound you hear is my teeth chattering, and all the typos in the forthcoming post are a result of my hands shaking.  It’s c-c-cold!!!  And it isn’t even winter yet!  I am ready for spring … perhaps I’ll plant some flowers here …flowers-2I presume you are all surviving this harrowing season?  I have given up on trying to convince the girls that we ought to skip it this year, and am rather just going with the flow, trying to keep up with baking, shopping, decorating, wrapping and so forth while carving out a bit of time to breathe.  It’s about the best I can hope for at the moment.

Grab a warm drink & a Christmas cookie (I baked them just for you guys!) and let’s go find something to start the week out with a smile, or possibly even a chuckle, shall we?

It has been cold…

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Toxic Behaviours: Examples of Unhealthy Boundaries — Fighting for a Future


Do you know how to make someone respect your boundaries? Would you know what to say or do to keep your boundaries firm? Most people struggle with boundaries because we, as a society, tend to see things at face value and with the intent of communicating in a peaceful manner. We hardly ever anticipate that…

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